Not everyone will agree with this uncomfortable statement.
Everything matters to those that are paying attention. Actions always tell you about people – it’s up to you to believe what people are telling you.
Who are you going to believe, me, or your lying eyes.
Henry Ford once wanted to hire a planning manager. He shortlisted two candidates who were both brilliant, from the same college, from the same class, and with the same GPA.
To decide whom to select, Henry Ford took them out for dinner. His goal was to see them in a non-work setting.
Following dinner, Henry Ford told one candidate, “You’ve been selected,” and the other, “I’m afraid that we won’t be proceeding with you.”
The young candidate who was not selected summoned the courage and asked Ford, “Can I ask you something, sir?”
“Our dinner conversation was not about cars, engineering, or academic performance – we just talked about general things – then, could you please tell me why you chose my friend over me?”
Henry Ford responded, “For two reasons. One, your friend tried the steak first and then put salt, whereas you put the salt first, even before tasting the steak. I like people who try things first before they make changes.
Two, a more important reason. Your friend was polite and friendly, saying “thank you” and “please” with all the waiters in the restaurant, whereas to you, they were invisible. You were focused only on me. I like people who see people for who they are without worrying about hierarchy.”
Everything matters to someone. Be the best version of yourself, be true to yourself. Yes that second person didn’t get the job but perhaps he dodged a bullet and working at Ford would have been the worst decision for him. Hiring him would have been a bad decision for Henry.
At Uncommon Experiences we are not looking for more members we are looking for the right ones for us and our group. That is why we are evaluating you as much as you are evaluating us.
It is why you can’t be a member until you have been to four experiences.
It’s not about what you do, who you know, what you own but how abundant and how you connect with the community. That’s un-networking.